Are you trying to get pregnant? Have you experienced loss before? Pregnancy after miscarriage is possible. This post is chock full of information to encourage those trying to conceive.
My Journey to First Time Motherhood
It was November 15, 2001. I began having contractions, was spotting, and felt like “my water broke.” I was rushed to the hospital. It was happening. It was really happening, I thought, while excitedly anticipating the birth of my first child.
The bad news – I was only 20 weeks pregnant. I was nowhere near the 40 week mark where pregnancies are supposed to end.
To top it all off, I was on the maternity floor with all the other women who would become mothers that day. The sounds of labor and birth filled the atmosphere.
I’ll never forget how I felt as I was wheeled out of the hospital, discharged from the maternity floor, with no baby.
My heart was broken. Why did this happen to me? Why did God let this happen to me?
I was sad, angry, and then numb.
What would all of those people who had congratulated me on my pregnancy think now?
My Experience with Secondary Infertility
Secondary infertility is defined as the inability to become pregnant, or to carry a pregnancy to term, following the birth of one or more biological children. The birth of the first child does not involve any assisted reproductive technologies or fertility medications. – The National Infertility Association
Fast forward to 2008 when we decided to expand our family. December 29th to be exact!
I visited my OB’s office for a regular checkup and was told that my cervix was already dilated. This time I was only 25 weeks.
Within an hour of being put on immediate bedrest, driving straight home, slowly walking up the stairs, and tiptoeing through the kitchen door, my water broke.
I was transported to the hospital, but unfortunately a pregnancy cannot survive without amniotic fluid.
Again, I was on the maternity floor with all the other women who would become mothers that day along with the sounds of labor and birth that filled the floor.
I spent New Year’s Eve in the maternity ward, but didn’t get to come home with a baby.
Less than a year later, on November 14, 2009, I became a mom again to a beautiful baby girl, weighing in at 7 pounds, 14 ounces, and again measuring 21 inches long.
What Got Me Through the Heartache (…Twice)
Faith – I believe with all of my heart that everything (good and bad) happens for a reason. I accept that I will not always know what that reason is. And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. -Romans 8:28
That doesn’t mean I didn’t experience every emotion possible including sadness, anger, and numbness. God and I had a lot of tough conversations where I was completely honest about how I felt. I am so thankful that everything worked out the way I wanted, in the end, and came full circle.
Family – My husband, parents, friends, and other family members were extremely supportive, encouraging, and available for me. They were there for me to cry on a shoulder, listen to my lamentations, remind me that God hadn’t forgotten me, and encourage me to remember that my time would come.
Doctors – I had a phenomenal medical team that answered every question, honored every one of my requests, and never rushed me. During each of my pregnancies, we took precautions, did all we could to bolster my chances, and met very often. I can’t thank them enough for treating me – the whole person – and not just viewing me as a difficult medical case. I recommend places that help you understand your situation in more depth, like Fertility Plus.
I found a great resource for moms who have experienced loss through miscarriage. It’s called Blessings Through Raindrops.
What is the Conception Kit?
The Conception Kit is a three month comprehensive program that works together to help couples conceive. This FDA-cleared at-home conception system goes beyond ovulation timing by concentrating all available sperm where they need to be at the best time for conception to occur. This is possible by using the primary component of the kit: the Conception Cap®.
Who Can Use the Conception Kit?
- Couples in the initial 12 month period of trying to conceive.
- Women who are on fertility medications.
- Couples who have been diagnosed, who do not wish to pursue (or have already tried) invasive clinical procedures.
- Couples who will not use assistive reproductive technology (ART) due to the doctrine of their religion.
- Couples who desire maximize conception opportunity within a given time period (teachers, CPA’s).
- Military couples needing to maximize time available while the partner is home.
- Vasectomy reversal patients.
Whether you are trying to get pregnant with your first baby or adding to a growing family, conceiving a child is not always easy. The Conception Kit® at-home system is a comprehensive, FDA-cleared medical device. It is designed to help couples go beyond ovulation timing and overcome common fertility problems.
This post is sponsored by Conception Kit. All opinions and stories are my own. Consult with your doctor.