Are you and your family preparing for a big move? These tips on moving with kids will help save your sanity, make your kids feel more comfortable, and lighten your load.
We moved from North Carolina back to our home state of Virginia when my oldest child, my son, was four. He left his preschool and we had to get rid of our dog. Not very traumatic for him.
Then, when my daughter joined our family, we moved from an apartment to a house in a neighboring city. This all happened just before her first birthday, so that would have made my son about eight. A friend and classmate of his moved to the same area, so the adjustment went fairly well for him.
Moving can be a big deal for you and your kids. For a child, it can be the first time they’ve experienced moving away from friends, family, and familiar surroundings. They may not be prepared to deal with it. So, I have some guidance to help you prepare your kids for moving home:
Discuss the Move
I read this great article from Kids Health that I think sums it all up best:
No matter what the circumstances, the most important way to prepare kids to move is to talk about it.
Try to give them as much information about the move as soon as possible. Answer questions completely and truthfully, and be receptive to both positive and negative reactions. Even if the move means an improvement in family life, kids don’t always understand that and may be focused on the frightening aspects of the change.
Involving kids in the planning as much as possible makes them feel like participants in the house-hunting process or the search for a new school. This can make the change feel less like it’s being forced on them.
Visit the House before You Move
If you want to prepare your kids for a move, you should start doing so months in advance. If you spring a move on them, it will make things so much worse! Take them to the new house before you move in. It gives them a chance to look around and see the house for themselves.
They can go into their new bedroom and get a feel for it. Doing this will help things massively because it starts to get them adjusted to the thought of moving. When you do move, the house won’t feel so different to them, because they’ve been there before.
Get Their Bedroom Set Up
When you move into a new place, everything will be a bit of a mess. None of the rooms are completely how you want them, and there are loads of things to unpack. You should make your kid’s rooms the number one priority. Get them set up and ready for your children to sleep in.
Make sure the beds are all set up with their favorite bedding. Bring in all the boxes with their toys and unpack them. Try and get the new bedroom feeling like their old one as quickly as possible. The quicker he or she feels comfortable in the bedroom, the more the child will start to feel way at home.
Buy Them a Moving Present
Kids are often upset when they have to move house because they’ve become accustomed to your home. Generally speaking, young children don’t like change. They like things the way they are, so anything different will be looked at negatively. So, to try and cheer them up, why not buy them a moving present?
Get them a little gift to help make the moving process easier for them. If you promise them a gift, it will put a little smile on their face. Perhaps get a nice dress up costume from Just Pretend Kids, a new soft toy from Amazon, or a new item for their bedroom. Something as simple as a little gift can make a huge difference in helping them deal with the move.
Show Them the Surrounding Area
If you’re moving to a new town, it would be a great idea to show your kids around the area, too. Moving is tough for young kids, especially if it demands a complete change of scenery. They will be used to the area they lived in before, going to the local parks, and exploring their old neighborhood.
Take them around the town and show them all the sights and scenes. Help them to get used to the new area that they’ll be spending time in once you move. If they’re moving to a new school too, make sure you visit the new school with them too.
What moving tips do you have for making the transition easier?