If you have trouble saying no when asked to bake one more thing, make one more stop, or join another committee, I have three ways to say no that just may work for you.
As moms, we are so accustomed to taking care of others that we can often take on too much. When you find yourself going over budget, forgetting things, and ending the day feeling like you haven’t done one thing for yourself, maybe it’s time to start saying no.
1. Let Me Check My Schedule
I have a very close friend who uses this as her go to phrase. The first time she said it, I thought it was peculiar. How dare my friend not say yes to my request? After I saw her responding this way to others’ requests and her replying that way to me in multiple instances. I thought – ok this is just her process. It gives her the opportunity to evaluate her time, money, and other resources before committing to anything. Genius.
2. We’ll See
This buys me time with my kids. I respond this way when I don’t want to commit to saying yes, but I haven’t decided to say no either. If they ask me about it again, I will more seriously consider their request. If they don’t ask again, I’ll know they really weren’t that interested.
If you are the confident, non-people pleasing type, this is easy for you. If you’re like me, this is a serious challenge. This is where mommy guilt comes in and we are afraid to put ourselves first. I am really working on this. It is an acquired habit and skill. I’ve been making a more conscious effort to evaluate what I have already committed to before taking on anything else.
What will saying no get you?
More time, money, and margin in your schedule and budget.
Is it hard for you to say no? If so, why? If not, what are your strategies?
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